Lavendier, Raymond Thomas

Lavendier, RaymondRaymond Thomas Lavendier, of Farmington, CT, beloved husband of Emilia (Viscosi) Lavendier, passed away peacefully Wednesday, October 21, 2015 at his home. Born June 20, 1925 in Worcester, MA, son of the late Nelson and Flora (Lacroix), he was part of the “Greatest generation.” Raymond enlisted in the United States Navy in June of 1942 at the age of 17. He was a member of the amphibious forces and took part in North Africa, Sicily, India and Burma campaigns. He participated in the first wave of the Normandy Invasion on Omaha and Gold Beach on June 6, 1944 and was one of the few D-Day survivors awarded the French Legion of Honor Medal in 2009. Raymond returned to Normandy for the 60th anniversary and 70th last year with his children and grandchildren. He married Emilia (Viscosi) in 1951. He began his career working evenings full time at Shawmut Bank in Worcester, MA while attending college full time on the GI bill and graduated from Clark University. The first 2 of his 5 children were born while commuting to Boston University for a Master degree program in Sociology. Raymond and his family moved to Farmington, CT in 1957, and he became a partner with Bristol Flow Gasket Co. He founded Connecticut Cap and Seal Co in 1965, retiring in 1997. He was proud of his family and passed on his passion for athletics and community service. He coached the Plainville YMCA boys swim team and was a swimming official. Raymond was a long-time member and President of the Farmington Field Club, President of The Farmington Recreation Association, President of UNICO, built homes with Habitat for Humanity well into his 80’s and was a member of the West Hartford Squires, VFW. He loved skiing with his family in Vermont, playing paddle tennis and traveling. Dad competed in, and held International Masters swim records. He also competed up until the age of 80 in USTA New England tennis tournaments. Besides his wife of 64 years, Raymond is survived by his loving family, his sister Louise Sullivan of Worcester, MA, 5 children: Marie Lavendier and husband Paul Canning of Farmington, Ann Jacobs and husband James of Avon, Joseph Lavendier and wife Marfie of Newcastle, ME, Patricia Lavendier of Farmington, and Suzanne Crews and husband Robert of South Burlington, VT, nine loving and adorable grandchildren who were the joy of his life, Christopher Canning of Moab Utah, Nicole Canning of Farmington, Jennifer Jacobs of Avon, the late Christina Jacobs, Ethan Lavendier and wife Amelia and their daughter Ember of Gorham, ME, Samuel Lavendier of Portland, ME, Jonathan Fugge of Farmington, Kathrine Fugge of Boston, MA, Alyssa Crews of Boston, MA and Rachel Crews of Boston, MA, along with several nieces and nephews. Raymond was predeceased by his parents, sister, Pauline Taylor, son-in-law, Paul Fugge and granddaughter, Christina Jacobs. The family would like to extend a special thank you to Raymond’s caregivers, Esther and A.K. for their kindness and compassion the last few days of his life. Friends may call at The Ahern Funeral Home, 111 Main St., Rt. 4, Unionville on Sunday (Oct. 25) from 3:00-5:00pm. Funeral procession from The Ahern Funeral Home will be Monday (Oct. 26) at 9:15am followed by the Funeral Liturgy in the Church of St. Patrick, Farmington at 10:00am. Burial with full military honors will be in Riverside Cemetery, Farmington. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to American Warrior PO Box 337, Versailles, CT 06383.

Calling Hours

Sunday, October 25, 2015 from 3:00-5:00pm

Funeral Service

Monday, October 26, 2015 at 10:00am in the Church of St. Patrick - Farmington


Riverside Cemetery - Farmington

Memorial Contribution

American Warrior PO Box 337, Versailles, CT 06383.

9 Responses to 'Lavendier, Raymond Thomas'

  1. John Lavendier says:

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  2. Max Schafer says:

    Dear Ann, Jen & Jim,

    It was with great sadness that I learned about the passing of Mr. Lavandier and I am so sorry for your loss. Although my interactions with him were limited, they were always meaningful. I admired him for his heroism and his deep and abiding commitment to living life according to a strong set of moral values. I admired his passion for athletics and I shared his belief in the character they build. I always learned a lesson about life when I spoke with him and I am truly grateful I had the chance to know him. I will continue to cherish the fond memories I have of my time with him.


    Max Schafer

  3. Jane Michaelis says:

    We told my father today of the passing of Ray Lavendier which saddened him as he had so much respect for him. He had intended to call him but sadly he missed his opportunity. Please know our family extends our thoughts and prayers. The Lavendier family is a hallmark to so many.

  4. Young Yoo says:

    Ray, you were my hero in many ways. Your bright and cheerful attitude made us happy. We certainly had some good time playing tennis at our not so young age. My sincere codoescence to the Lavendier family.

  5. Mary Chintan Kess says:

    Dear Lavendier Family,
    My deepest condolences to your family for the loss of your beloved husband, father, grandfather. Know my heart is with you all.

  6. Annette & David Dimesky says:

    You are in our hearts and prayers at this sad time in your families’ life! Your dad was greeted in the heavens by our Christina and all who loved him while on this earth!!

  7. Mary Rose Collins says:

    To Emily and the whole family,
    What great memories we having growing up to such super neighbors. You will all hold a special place in all our memories. Remember Ray will live in your hearts and memories forever as well as those who have shared your lives.
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
    Lois, Susan, Karen and Mary Rose

  8. the Dimesky's says:

    Jim, Ann, and Jen,

    Our warmest thoughts and deepest sympathy to you during this time. Ray was always such a great person to be around, and a devote vet! He is home now, till we all meet again.


    Tiffany, Annette, and David Dimesky

  9. John R. Caruso says:

    We have lost a loving family man, one of the greatest of the Greatest Generation and a best friend a man could have. He will be missed by many.
    John Caruso

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