O’Connell, Patrick J.

Patrick J. O’Connell, 62, died peacefully of natural causes at his home in Eastham, Massachusetts, on March 15, 2019. He was a beloved husband, brother and uncle, and a friend to many musicians and music lovers around the world. Born in 1957 in Hartford, Connecticut, he attended the Loomis-Chaffee School, in Windsor, where he served as president of his senior class. He was a graduate of Duke University, earning an undergraduate degree in political science in 1979 and a subsequent master’s degree in education in 1980. He also earned his J.D. degree from the University of North Carolina School of Law in 1988, and he practiced law for several years with the firm of Carmody & Torrance of Waterbury, Connecticut. He married his devoted wife Kathleen Finucane in 1995 and settled in Eastham, Massachusetts, where he was active in civic affairs and the local music community.
Known to his friends as Pat or P.J., he was a passionate lifelong lover of music and an accomplished singer-songwriter. As a longtime resident of North Carolina during the 1980’s, he led the Durham-based Flying Pigs, a band whose releases include “Desi” and “Mexican Divorce.” As P.J. O’Connell, he released “Dream Life” (2001), “Happy Go Lucky” (2002), “Careful” (2007), and “Join the Crowd” (2011), recordings that featured many of his musical friends, including members of NRBQ and the Incredible Casuals. As a performer, he played stages across the United States and in Japan, and All Music Guide called him an “Americana power pop auteur on a journey that keeps getting more and more beautiful with each release.”

Pat was legendary for his kindness and loyalty to his friends and fellow musicians, his incisive wit and discerning taste, an encyclopedic knowledge of popular music, and a vast recorded music collection.

He is survived by his wife Kathleen Finucane and is predeceased by their daughter Elsbeth Caitlin O’Connell. His other survivors include siblings Edward O’Connell (and wife Susan), James O’Connell, and Elise O’Connell Boccia (and husband Steven), his sister-in-law Elsbeth Finucane-Albert (and husband Brett), brother-in-law William Finucane (and wife Kalora), and sister-in-law Lisa Finucane, as well as loving nieces and nephews Quinn Albert, Lanie Albert, Anna Finucane, Patrick Finucane, Kathleen Boccia, Joseph Boccia, Steven Boccia, Daniel O’Connell, and Rachel O’Connell.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at 10 a.m. on Tuesday, March 19, in St. Thomas the Apostle Church, 872 Farmington Avenue, West Hartford, Connecticut, followed by burial at Fairview Cemetery, 200 Whitman Avenue, West Hartford, Connecticut.

Calling Hours


Funeral Service

Tuesday, March 19, at 10:00 am in St. Thomas the Apostle Church ~ West Hartford


Fairview Cemetery, ~ West Hartford

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5 Responses to 'O’Connell, Patrick J.'

  1. Adrienne Fontes says:

    Kathleen, my heartfelt condolences to you.

  2. Dian Wilson says:

    We are heartbroken here in Durham, Kathy. Our doors and hearts are always open for you. Peace to you and all of your family.

  3. Scott MacDonald says:

    Kathy we are so sorry for you loss, but are truly blessed that Pat was part of our lives. We will always remember and cherish his kind words, huge smile, joyful laugh, clever music,and that bellowing voice.

    We will miss him dearly.
    Thoughts and Prayers
    Your neighbors from the “HAM”
    Scott, Clare, Grace and Jack

  4. Robert (RT) Truesdale and Marcia Owen says:

    Kathy and all – We are all reeling with the sad news down here in the Bull City, and I feel so lucky to have been privileged with the funny times and great music he shared with us over the years – his tunes and hijinks keep moving through my head.
    Marcia and I send our sincere condolences and thoughts and prayers to you and yours in your time of loss.

  5. Peter Delloro says:

    Caron and I are so sorry to hear this. We certainly remember Pat (and the Flying Pigs) from the time we lived in Durham. I am sure he will be missed but not forgotten. Our condolences.

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