Shaffer-Bengston, Barbara Jeanne “BJ”

On August 22, 2019 at the age of 66 Barbara Jeanne Shaffer-Bengston made her journey to heaven. Barbara was predeceased by her father Harry Shaffer, her beloved mother Aneysa Bristol “Gramma Gum” and Francis Bristol “Grampa Fix It”. She is now reunited with her brother David Shaffer who was married to Margie Shaffer. She is also predeceased by her half sister Lois. Barbara was the proud mother of three children, Aneysa Bengston, Sherry Hill married to Robert Hill, and Scott Bengston married to Vicki Bengston. She was a prouder Grandmother to seven grandchildren, Guy, Larissa, Pierce, Bethany, Zachary, Emma and Kaela. And even prouder Great Grandmother of two great grandchildren, Robert and Delilah. Barbara will be forever remembered by numerous nieces, nephews, cousins, extended family and dear friends. She also leaves behind her beloved cat Mitzi.
Barbara graduated with a Masters Degree in Theology from Andover Newton College. She was an Associate Member of the Sisters of Mercy. Was a dedicated member of the Burlington Congregational Church where she delighted in playing bells.
As an Ordained Minister she recently retired from Vitas as a Board Certified Hospice Chaplain. This was her calling and she was devoted to this ministry. Her compassionate heart and caring ways touched the lives of many.
Viewing hours will be held on Tuesday August 27, 2019 4:00-7:00 with a prayer service to be held at 7:00 pm at Ahern Funeral Home 111 Main Street, Unionville, CT 06085.
In lieu of flowers, memorial donations in memory of Barbara can be made to The Vitas Community Connection at The Vitas Community Connection.Org or mailed to The Vitas Community Connection C/O Vitas at 199 Park Road Ext., Middlebury, CT 06762

Calling Hours

Tuesday August 27, 2019 from 4:00-7:00 pm

Funeral Service

Tuesday August 27, 2019 at 7:00 pm Ahern Funeral Home 111 Main Street, Unionville, CT 06085


Memorial Contribution

In memory of Barbara can be made to The Vitas Community Connection at The Vitas Community Connection.Org or mailed to The Vitas Community Connection C/O Vitas at 199 Park Road Ext., Middlebury, CT 06762

8 Responses to 'Shaffer-Bengston, Barbara Jeanne “BJ”'

  1. Maureen Thompsin says:

    Barbara was such a sweet spirit with an everlasting smile in her face. God Blessed us with her for awhile!!!

  2. maureen macdonald says:

    Aneysa, Sherry and Scott,so sorry to hear of your loss. Barb was a very genuine,sincere and friendly person.She was blessed with family and surrounded by love.

  3. Danielle McConnell says:

    My Dearest Aneysa, Sherry and Scott and all extended family grandkids great grandkids my heart breaks for you guys just want you to know I send my sympathy, prayers at this very sad time also my love and big hugs Danielle McConnell

  4. Joanne says:

    God bless the angel which he sent to us with love and compassion like no other how blessed am I to have met and work with a wonderful person as BJ she structured and took care of all whom which she loved and kept dear to her heart I love you BJ I know you will follow me through my journey and forever be in my heart. I wish and pray for the family during these trying times God bless!

  5. Suzanne B. Todd says:

    So sorry for this sudden loss. Barbara was the most loving and kind person I have ever met. Although I have only known her for 6 years, we found each other through our DNA on Ancestry – which she loved to research. We are second cousins and we had many conversations about family. I was glad to have gone up to the hospital several times to sit with her this past month. Never thought she was getting ready to leave us. My heart breaks for her children and grandchildren as she always let me know how much they meant to her. She is at peace now and we have a beautiful angel looking over all of us.

  6. Judy Niatopsky says:

    BJ was the light of Christ to all who knew her and were fortunate enough to be in her presence. She touched everybody with love and compassion. Her smile lit up the world, now it is lighting up heaven. In loving remembrance, Judy & Martin Niatopsky

  7. Paula and Dick Welch says:

    Wonderful person,truely the spirit of Christ.She was very loved and will be so missed

  8. María Adorno says:

    BJ was a unique person she was a wonderful person inside out she was my best friend thank the Lord I have the honor to see her last month and spend time with her in my daughter house Nancy we have a wonderful time together she wants to see me and I want to see her too . She was with me all the time to give support when my dear granddaughter pass away. Thanks my dear BJ for been there for been with me and my loved ones you was a wonderful and kind person. RIP 💜🙏💜

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