Suydam, Sylvia J. (Fillian)

Sylvia J. (Fillian) Suydam, 88, of Plainville, died on July 29, 2020, at Bristol Hospital. Sylvia Jane Fenton was born in Bristol, on August 26, 1931 daughter of the late Leonard and Mildred Fenton. She is pre-deceased by her husbands, Marshall D. Fillian and George E. Suydam, III and three of her sisters, Mavis Gadzinski, Louise Schafferick and Joan Wilson. She leaves her youngest sister, Judith Fenton, seven children (and their spouses/partners), Jeffrey A. Fillian (Ruby), Charles M. Fillian (Karen), Francine J. Boucher (Bruce), Doreen M. Bouchard, Gerald R. “Jay” Gauthier (Deb Bellemare), John L. Fillian (Maureen), Marshall D. “Luke” Fillian, Jr (Tracy) and her step-children, Michael Suydam (Linda), Barry Suydam (Linda), Scott Suydam (Leslie), and Peter Suydam, 21 grandchildren, and 24 great-grandchildren. Sylvia also leaves behind countless handmade garments & quilts that will continue to be passed down through generations.
Sylvia particularly loved opportunities to spend time with those people she gathered around herself. She was also passionate about taking road trips, particularly when it was with or to her people. She loved to “visit”. Syl did not need a front row seat: she just asked to be present. At her home there was always a fresh pan of brownies and a hot cup of tea with warm conversation, a hug and with them she could melt the hardest of hearts or comfort the most troubled.
Syl / mom / gramma / nana always lead by example by being a world class listener. Mom’s calling seemed to be the love and care for others, from caring for us as infants, guiding us through our adolescents, welcoming anyone to her dinner table and loving her elderly companions to their resting place, considered by many as a saint. Sylvia was a long time member of Memorial United Methodist Church, where she continued to address her caring nature. For decades she was communion steward where she prepared communion for her community.
After many years of sleeping with one eye open, now you can rest in peace, God Bless Sylvia. The family would like to extend a sincere thank you to Home Helpers Home Care in Bristol and Bristol Hospital Home Care Hospice Services for the wonderful care given to Sylvia.
Friends may call at The Ahern Funeral Home, 111 Main St., Rt. 4, Unionville on Friday (July 31) from 4:00-8:00pm. Funeral Services will be held Saturday (Aug. 1) at 10:00am at the home of her son John, 11 Griffinville Road, Farmington followed by burial in Peacedale Cemetery, Bristol. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the American Cancer Society, 111 Founders Plaza, 2nd Floor, East Hartford, CT 06108 or to the Alzheimer’s Association CT Chapter, 200 Executive Boulevard, Suite 4B, Southington, CT 06489.

Calling Hours

Friday, July 31, 2020 from 4:00-8:00pm

Funeral Service

Saturday, August 1, 2020 at 10:00am at the home of John Fillian ~ 11 Griffinville Road, Farmington


Peacedale Cemetery ~ Bristol

Memorial Contribution

American Cancer Society, 111 Founders Plaza, 2nd Floor, East Hartford, CT 06108 or to the Alzheimer’s Association CT Chapter, 200 Executive Boulevard, Suite 4B, Southington, CT 06489

13 Responses to 'Suydam, Sylvia J. (Fillian)'

  1. Ruth & Michael Dore says:

    Sylvia was a lovely lady who was deeply loved by her family and those who knew her. She had amazing sewing skills and created objects that will be treasured. We always enjoyed her company at family gatherings. May she rest in heavenly peace. May her family be comforted by their memories and continue to be inspired by her kindness.

  2. Duane, Liz & Holly Farrar says:

    Our condolences to the Fillian family. Sylvia was a good friend and fellow church member of our late Mom and Stepfather, Joan and Wally Tibbetts. We are very sorry for your loss.

  3. Joanne Murphy says:

    Sylvie always made me feel so welcome! I really loved seeing, talking and laughing with her. I know she will be missed, but I’m thankful she is at peace. My love and thoughts are with all of you today.

  4. Marilyn & Dan Houlihan says:

    Jay and families we are are sending our heartfelt sympathy to you all at this sad time.

  5. Ruthellen Corbett says:

    Sylvia was our special friend! She enjoyed lunch with us when she could drive and I enjoyed many special cups of tea and goodies, sitting at her kitchen table. There were many hugs and much laughter. I am full of memories, looking at her sitting with her cup of tea at a First Friday lunch. But where s her green Tupperware bowl filled with memorable coleslaw? Every month she brought her coleslaw. We loved it, and First Friday will never be the same. I know bands of angels brought her to her rest. We love you Sylvia!
    Ruthellen and Bruce Corbett

    • Duane Farrar says:

      Hello Ruth Ellen and Bruce, how are you? I hope this finds you well. I was leaving a condolence for Sylvia and I saw your names. I hope this finds you well. I just wanted to let you know that after a long battle with dementia Mom passed away on March 22, 2018 at a nursing home in Keene, NH. She is buried in a family plot in Norridgewock, Me in between her parents and my brother Keith. We had a lovely service for her at the Methodist Church in Skowhegan, ME. Her twin granddaughters are now 13 and will soon be entering the 8th grade. I sold the house on Keyes Street this past October to an older woman whose son and family live right across the street so I know Mom and Wally are happy that there are children in and out of the house. The lady also likes to garden so I believe she is caring for Mom’s peonies and the lilac bush. It was just meant to be. I’m not sure if this reply goes only to you or will appear on the Condolences page for Sylvia. My sincerest apologies to the Fillian family if it is the latter. Peace, Duane

  6. Lynn Krauss says:

    Heaven has gained an Amazing Angel. Sylvia was and will always remain one of the kindest, most gentle and beautiful souls I’ve ever known. R.I.P.

  7. Lynn Krauss says:

    Heaven has gained an Angel 🙏🏻💫 Sylvia was and will always remain one of the kindest, most gentle and beautiful souls I’ve ever known. R.I.P. ♥️🙏🏻

  8. Deborah says:

    Ma Fillian had enough love in her heart to raise a village. She will always be remembered. My deep condolences to the entire family.

  9. Stephanie Soucy says:

    What a beautiful tribute to a lovely lady. I shall miss her visits at the Plainville Senior Center. I always knew I could depend on her for a wonderful hug.Praying that there is more laughter than tears in the near future. Hugs to all of Sylvia’s family that she loved so dearly.

  10. Julia Dauphinais says:

    An angel among us! Such a special lady and I also remember getting a Christmas card every year.

    To all those who were lucky enough to know her family, friends, neighbors and all those who connected with her in any way we have lost a true angel.

    Rest In Peace Sylvia

  11. Karen & Dave Spring says:

    Our deepest condolences on the loss of your mother. She was a lovely lady. Dave still talks about the time she named every single person at one of her milestone birthday parties. I’m sure she’s doing that in heaven as well.

  12. Bobbi Daugherty Moran says:

    Mrs. Fillian was a great lady and never forgot to send a card for a birthday or anniversary! She was truly one of a kind and will be sorely missed. Our love and prayers go out to all of her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren- what an amazing legacy she leaves!

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